I Didn’t Plan To Be A Father –Jaywon
Although multiple award winning artiste, Jaywon, welcomed his son into the world in November 2016, the singer has told Saturday Beats that he is not psychologically ready for marriage yet.
He explained that he did not plan to be a
father at this point in his life but since it has happened, he has to
be man enough to accept his responsibility.
“The truth is that I am not ready for
marriage right now and it was an understanding between the mother of my
child and I.
There are lots of things that I need to accomplish. Right
now, I just want to be responsible and I don’t think you need marriage
for that. I just want to be responsible for my child and his mother.
I
did not plan to be a father but when things like this happen, you just
have to be responsible enough. It was not planned, it just happened and I
have to be a man.
“You cannot pressure people to get
married and that is what our parents and a lot of people do not
understand.
You cannot pressure a child to be married when he is not
ready because if you do so, there could be problems. Most of our parents
don’t realise that because all they want is marriage. I know of some
people who were forced to get married when they were not ready and the
union did not last for a year. The problem is that they were forced into
it. My mother understands me and she knows the implication of forcing
me to do anything’ he said.
The singer added that he was not scared
of marriage and he would get married in due time but he needed to work
on himself. When asked if he would tie the knot with the mother of his
child when ready, he said that ‘it is possible.’
“I am not scared of marriage but I am
not mature enough for it. Psychologically, I am not ready for it. For
about a year, I have cut down on some things that I have been doing and
that is because I am preparing myself just in case I find myself waking
up next to someone for the rest of my life or consult another party
before I make a decision.
It is a big problem because as an artiste, I
have to be on standby all the time. My job involves spontaneous
travelling. The person that I would be with has to understand and she
needs to know that she would sacrifice a lot.
I need to let the person
know first and also improve on myself. I am more responsible than some
married men and I know this. If the mother of my child and I understand
ourselves well enough, we could get married,” Jaywon said.
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